The sex talk.

I said I would try to blog more, so here I am. Don't be too happy just yet, I probably won't keep this up because I'm such a lazy little shit so let's just enjoy what we have, shall we? 

ALSO NOTE FROM THE TITLE, if you are uncomfortable reading about certain words, kindly save yourself from reading all these. I'll post something more friendly tomorrow.

SO today, as I was sitting on the MRT on the way to Bugis, I realised a few things. Number one, it's bloody empty for a 3pm ride to the city - usually it's packed as shit because hello, it's the goddamn weekend. Number two, I overheard a conversation between two girls beside me having a whispered conversation (in all retrospect, I am sorry I am eavesdropping but my ears are damn bloody sharp when I'm not listening to any tunes on my phone) about something that most of us will find taboo about talking. 

Even in their conversations they censored out the word because it's THAT taboo about talking but we all know what they are talking about so why even censor it out (maybe because they don't want attention or anything lol sorry) but I believe we are all in a generation that has been opened *not figuratively* by the media and many "used to be" taboo things are now just a faint record of the past.

But I digress.

As I was saying, these two fine teenagers were basically talking about *drum roll* BUM BUM DA DA DUMMMMMM

SEX

no, we're not talking about gender

Some of you would have decided to close this blog and never go into it again because I have a big flashing word of "SEX" on my blog post. Let's all think about it, if you are already frightened by this word, ask yourself why? (unless you have left already and in that case I am sorry lol) Is it taboo to actually write the word itself? Or does it disgruntle you because you feel uncomfortable because there are horrid thought in your head? Is doing the nasty immoral and bad?

Kids, if you are underage and think that sex is brilliant for you, may I just knock your head out with a brick and send you to school because if you are underage, please go and bloody just study because having a relationship (or whatever that leads to sex) is not the most important thing in your plate right now. I'm seriously considering judging you, if you are a 13 year old and you think that having sex is the most important thing that you will ever do. It's called rape, friends. Let's not encourage that.

We all know the diseases that come with unprotected sex. School has taught us that. Remember the gruelling lessons of health ed or science where the teachers showed you the privates of both genders and remember you covering your eyes and screaming at your best friend to cover your ears? I think that was just me, by the way.

Most of us know that sex can give you horrible horrible things and at a very young age most of us were taught by our parents that sex is a bad disgusting immoral thing. 

But is it really?

We are taught that sex is horrid and we should not even think about it for a second because thinking about it will probably rot our brains and make us want to have rabbit mating sessions for eternity because yes, that's how things actually work in real life. It makes us uncomfortable when we even see it on television and we get awkward when sex is brought up. The only way sex will be alright is when you are married and want to have kids - that's the RIGHT kind of sex.

Listen up people, I myself, I am not a big fan of sex myself because it's just me - I am quite asexual and aromantic so I find the idea a bit funky but sure I would be curious as to wonder how it works. Thankfully for me, I had my best friends to teach me the theory of it (which made me go ew what how is that even nice) because sometimes curiousity can kill the cat.

Which leads me to the conversation the two girls were talking about - one of them was so curious as to wonder how sex was like because she in her twenty years plus had never once asked or tried to figure out until well that conversation. Now here's what I find really horrible, her friend actually gasped really loudly and looked at her in disgust - and told her not to even mention to speak about it.

Why? The curious one asked. 

Because it's wrong lah sex is wrong unless you get married that its okay you can ask your husband how next time. Said the friend.

Why is it wrong to be curious about it? It's the human body, people have emotions - not everyone is asexual and why is it always women who have a problem with it? Men from a younger age already know what sex is all about and have done all kinds of weird self pleasuring shit but when women do it, it's wrong and immoral. I'll be frank here, why can't we ask about sex even to our parents? It's knowledge, it's not like you will be doing it anytime soon because I trust you, you all know the consequences if you do not practice certain things.

Yes, yes. We Asians are very conservative. BUT THINK ABOUT THIS: Our generation is filled with horny men. Don't try to sugar coat it. I am right. I've seen shit happen around me and I am certain at least 80% of men cannot hold their god damn penises. PLEASE, it's not a damn trophy. I bet you I would rather look at a dying carcass than your dick. "NOT ALL MEN" You say? K.

Look. If you are legally able to do it, you are not forced to do it, you know what the consequences are and you stay safe - there is really absolutely nothing fucking wrong with sex. Some people might not be a fan of it, but if you like it, go ahead. Don't let social convention dictate your life, if you like it and you are safe with it then go ahead. 

Unless your best friend tells you that you're going overboard and slaps your face fifty times because you're doing the wrong thing and you are not ready and you SHOULD NEVER BE PRESSURED INTO HAVING SEX.

If you are responsible, I don't give two hoots if you swing your privates around as long as they are not at me because as much as I do not judge people who enjoy sex, I myself will never understand what so amazing about it because it's pretty gross to me still after so long.

GIRLS don't be afraid to ask. There is nothing wrong to be curious. I'd rather you ask than try to experiment it by yourself and get yourself into trouble.

That is all.

xoxo

evelyn